Sorry, but your Lee quote really is bogus. Fletcher Stockdale is reported to have said it to R L Dabney who...reported many things! Dabney has long been considered unreliable. The quote is supposed to have been said in 1870, right after a meeting with several influential people working to restore peace in the South, and after Lee had signed onto the one political letter he ever did sign. It was all about finding harmony. Stockdale is reported by Dabney to have said this on his deathbed and to Dabney only. No witnesses, Lee was long dead. Lee's family disputed it because it was counter to everything Lee believed after the war and worked for. Now, Gov Stockdale was the Texas governor and he was a red-hot, hard-core, Dixie-or-die rebel nationalist. He wanted Lee to be one, too - even if he had to stuff words into his mouth post mortem!