Adam Badeau , Grant's Gay Friend...

[5fish]

Adam Badeau was on General Grant's staff and took care of all of General Grant's personal correspondence. It is said, he was General Grant's closest aide and they stayed close up until near Grant's death. Why do I bring up Adam Badeau because he was gay. You will not find it anywhere in his bio and you will not find it in any bio about Grant either. It seems to have been conveniently washed from history, Adam Badeau being gay and how it may relate to his relationship with Grant. Once it is known that Grant's closest aide and friend is gay, it brings up uncomfortable questions we must ask about Grant and about their relationship. Below I have links that show Adam Badeau was gay and had homosexual liaisons with Edwin Booth and with cavalry man General James H Wilson. Wilson was part of Grant's staff and recommended Badeau to Grant. The links require you read a paragraph to a page at most...

First I will go into Adam Badeau past... I found the following....

In the 1850 it seems he knew Edwin Booth brother of John Wilkes Booth and it seems he and Edwin Booth may have been lovers and it was Badeau newspaper column that kick off Edwin Booth's career.

Read the second paragraph in the Introduction...
https://books.google.com/books?id=T...ge&q=Adam Badeau 19th century gay men&f=false

Read pages 110 and 111
https://books.google.com/books?id=9...AD#v=onepage&q=Edwin Booth homosexual&f=false

Read page 172...
https://books.google.com/books?id=v...AJ#v=onepage&q=Edwin Booth homosexual&f=false

I found this and the link... James Wilson is a Union Officer... its been known since 1966
http://cwbn.blogspot.com/2007/10/more-wilsons-than-you-can-shake-stick.html

Of the various James Wilsons serving as aides, BTW, James H. Wilson could be called "the gay one." As Grant historian Brooks Simpson has pointed out (scroll down link to comments), Wilson and Grant aide Adam Badeau were lovers. Brooks mentions their sexy correspondence in Princeton's Firestone Library; part of it was published in 1966 (see card 211). Longacre actually calls Badeau "prissy."

Read footnote 27 it supports the paragraph above...
https://books.google.com/books?id=l...ge&q=General Adam Badeau a homosexual&f=false

Badeau does get married in 1879 and the following... lifeless marriage...
http://henrysteiner.com/DIRsteiner/historian.htm

References to his wife are also rare. In 1889, Mrs. Adam Badeau gets a mention in theNew York Times. But, it appears that Marie Elizabeth Badeau and her husband may have led separate lives. She never seems to be mentioned in a context with her husband, and she is not mentioned in his obituary although she survived him. In April 1889, Mrs. Badeau is mentioned as serving on a committee of New York ladies raising funds for Paris shop girls—they raised $200. At some later date we find her leasing her summer home in the Catskills. In July 1908 Badeau’s widow attended a society event at Lake Placid. She died on May 17, 1915 at 39 Claremont Avenue, Jersey City and was buried at Greenwood Cemetery—a different resting place from her husband’s.

Currently, it is not clear to me how Adam Badeau ended up in Ridgewood, New Jersey, where he had been in poor health “for some time.” On March 19, 1895, he suffered a stroke while speaking with his adopted son, George Corsa. He died after his adopted daughter, Miss Kittie Chillman, “was summoned.” He was sixty-five years old. I have found no announcement of the interment at the Old Dutch Burying Ground, which took place some time after a Catholic funeral at Ridgewood.

Who were these adopted children? How long did he live in Ridgewood? What was the nature of his marriage life? Why was his wife buried at Greenwood Cemetery? The questions trigger stories and the answers trigger more questions. A short while ago Adam Badeau was no more to me than a name on a headstone. After scratching the surface of this man’s life, he emerges as a very interesting man living among significant American figures and events. There appears to be much more to discover about the life of Adam Badeau.

There is my info showing Badeau was gay... We come back to Grant. He must have known Badeau was gay. They knew each other for 20 years Badeau travel with Grant in war and in peace. He went on Grant's around the world tour so one must believe Grant knew he (Badeau) was gay. If you look over his behavior with Badeau is odd at times... I will go more into that later...

Here is Badeau take on his relationship with Grant. I have found so far... Its from Badeau book Grant in Peace:.. In the Introduction starting half way down page 13 ...

https://books.google.com/books/abou...urce=kp_read_button&hl=en#v=onepage&q&f=false

Did you see the following 19th century wording "He allowed me to say things to him few men say to each other" and he goes on after that as well...

I am not trying to slur Grant with this thread but pointing out the historic importance of Grant having a close relationship with a gay man... If it was just a friendship, great and if it was more then friendship, great as well... Either way, historian should be going over all Grant's letters and writings , Badeau's letters and writing and other peoples letters and writing who knew them looking for clues again into their relationship. Historians need to be back over Grant's life looking for any clues that may have been missed or over looked. We are talking about two 19th century men and when being gay was a crime...

 

[5fish]

I think you should ask: Why did I go looking into Grant and Badeau relationship? Because of Grant's words in the last days of his life. Below is a link to them and many have seen the letters from Grant to Badeau. I want to point out I have yet to find the letter(s) Badeau wrote to Grant on this topic. Makes you go Hmmmm...

Link to the site.. to Grant's papers vol 31 please read pages 350 to 362... the site a little awkward to use.. Same link but read pages 429 to 431 again its a break up letter...

http://digital.library.msstate.edu/cdm/compoundobject/collection/USG_volume/id/27900

In his letters trashing Badeau, I found them odd. I have friendships going back 20 and 40 years and I could not trash my friends with the detail Grant trashed Badeau but I could trash my wife of 25 years(this week) in detail as Grant.

Grant complains about Badeau $1500 lifestyle and then goes on to itemize it in detail. I have friends that spend to much money but I could not itemize it, like Grant did. I could itemize my wife spending lifestyle in detail. What does this mean? You can only itemize what you spend your money on. It seems Grant was supporting Badeau lifestyle with money to be able to itemize it. Why would he be financially supporting Badeau?

Grant, in detail again, complains about all the things he has done for Badeau over the years and how Badeau would then screw up each opportunity( job) he got for him. After about two blown opportunities friend or not, I would say you are on your own after making me look bad... but I would keep helping my wife or family... Why does Grant stay with this guy?

Do you see a odd pattern here between Grant and Badeau? It seems Grant goes out of his way for Badeau and Badeau just takes. Why?

Do you know what really caught my eye promoting Badeau up three ranks higher to General so he could have access to paper work to write his book. I will say that is corrupt act by noble Grant. Badeau did not need to be a General to have access to the paper work. So why did Grant do it...? Again its in his words: Badeau complain about being called" a clerk " and Grant whined that he was a clerk once and was proud of it. So why did Grant promote Badeau to general...? Access and status the two things Badeau grieves after money. It gave Badeau the status and access to the elites of the day and access to Grant... Why would Grant give badeau a Lt. what he wants?

From these thoughts, I began looking into Badeau and look what I found a man with sexual orientation going against the norms of the day... That is how we got to this point... I am still wondering why Grant brought or took Badeau on his around the world tour....

 

[5fish]

I will try to bring this thread into focus....

Brooks Simpson: Badeau was gay and used his sexual identity against Grant( do you if he used when Grant was dying he did not use it before...

McFreely: Badeau was gay. He did not think there was intimacy between Grant and Badeau. His thoughts Badeau craved status and privileged and he got that by attaching himself to Grant. He was glad to play Grant's lap dog and fetch and do things for Grant. So why did Grant do so many favors for Badeau over the years?

In my looking around: Badeau was not like by anyone it seems, except maybe Grant. He comes across as a creep and weasel. So why does Grant associate with such a person for years. Ely Parker called him "grasping rascal" during the court case between the Grant's and Badeau.

In the war years Badeau was suppose to be Grant's closest aide and friend. He took care of Grant's personal correspondence during the war years and seems to be good at. The two were opposites in almost everything but got got along as if they were one. During the war years, Badeau wanted to be Grant's official historian and Grant agree to it. The stage it set...

Why does Grant grant favors to Badeau: Like... Puts Badeau on his staff a personal appointment. He helps get him to get his retirement check when he retired( only member of grant's staff to retire) from the army due to his foot injury. While in Washington Badeau acted disgracefully in public but Grant kept him on even thou there were calls to fire him. Grant sent him to London and Badeau again misbehaves and Grant covers for him by letting him keep his job.

Making him a General with the excuse it gives Badeau access to paperwork to write his history of Grant and give him access to his staff in helping write his great work on Grant. The first letter to Badaue you tell Grant is emotionally hurt but the affair. He thought he was doing Badeau a favor by bringing him in and Badeau bites the hand that feeds him...

Badeau travel like 5 months with the Grant's on their around the world tour...

Offered Badeau 10,000 dollars to help with his memoirs... that was like 20% of the forecast sales... the book sold 10 times forecast sales...

Grant keeps helping Badeau out of what sense of loyalty.or three choices.. Childhood friend, lover, or blackmail...

I am surprise no one looked into Badeau and Grant's relationship because he seems to be Grant's confidant. Scholarly work should be done about this relationship...

Alcohol and Grant.... I want to point out Alcohol is great at freeing our inhibition. I like to point maybe when Grant drinks he gets a little friskie and sex may not be far behind. Maybe Badeau caught him in a weak moment... or other way around... I want to point in Californian and Grant's sudden act of resigning... Alcohol and young men and far from home... I have no proof except I have seen alcohol do itS thing on a many women and men over the years... Why did Grant not fight for his job because there was more then alcohol involved. He had new wife to feed and a father to make happy but was embarrasses by being found drunk, and quits... come on!!! If he would have fought it the truth would have come out... Funny part is he still had to go home and tell them why he resigned so they still knew it was over alcohol... so why not fight it... His California story does not hold water...

Again a young staff of hard drinkers... lead by a hard drinker.... trouble!

What I have pointed out there is enough smoke here to look into Grant's relations with Badeau and his Grant's sexual identity...

 

[Jim Klag]

Badeau was actually John Rawlins' "friend."

 

[diane]

I think you went to a lot of trouble over a little bit of nothing, 5fish. Badeau did his job and so did Wilson...who apparently had an attraction to a few officers. You can make a much more solid case there than Badeau with Grant!

 

[5fish]

The point is history should know that a gay man was buds with one of the great generals of his day and a president too. He meet and rubbed shoulders with a elites of his day all the while being a weasel and a louse...

 

[Jim Klag]

The point is history should know that a gay man was buds with one of the great generals of his day and a president too. He meet and rubbed shoulders with a elites of his day all the while being a weasel and a louse...

Why? You insinuated a gay relationship between Grant and Badeau with precisely zero evidence. They were not "buds." Badeau's relationship to Grant was as an employee to his employer. John Rawlins was Badeau's special friend and it was on his recommendation that Grant added Badeau to his staff. Yours is the worst kind of innuendo - implying a sexual identity crisis for Grant because a gay man was an employee. You should get a job with the Enquirer. No. Even they wouldn't write your bullshit.

 

[5fish]

ou insinuated a gay relationship between Grant and Badeau with precisely zero evidence. They were not "buds." Badeau's relationship to Grant was as an employee to his employer.

No, I read if there was anyone Grant was close to in his staff it would have been Badeau... When the family went around the world Badeau caught a ride and was not employed by the Grant's, doing his free loading thing. Badeau was a good friend to Ms. Grant, until later years... If you read angry letter Grant wrote to Badeau near the end of their relationship you could tel Grant was hurt...

 

[Jim Klag]

No, I read if there was anyone Grant was close to in his staff it would have been Badeau... When the family went around the world Badeau caught a ride and was not employed by the Grant's, doing his free loading thing. Badeau was a good friend to Ms. Grant, until later years... If you read angry letter Grant wrote to Badeau near the end of their relationship you could tel Grant was hurt...

Stop it. Give it up. Listen to yourself. Badeau was friends with Mrs. Grant, therefore Grant was gay. Moronic.

 

[5fish]

Badeau did his job and so did Wilson...

We forgot to add in best buds(lovers) with the greatest stage actor of the American 19th century Edwin Booth... many say it was Badeau who got his acting career going by praising his acting in his newspaper articles...

Edwin Thomas Booth (November 13, 1833 – June 7, 1893) was an American actor who toured throughout the United States and the major capitals of Europe, performing Shakespearean plays. In 1869, he founded Booth's Theatre in New York.[2] Some theatrical historians consider him the greatest American actor, and the greatest Prince Hamlet, of the 19th century.[3] His achievements are often overshadowed by his relationship with his younger brother, actor John Wilkes Booth, who assassinated President Abraham Lincoln

Badeau buds to two great men of the 19th century...

 

[5fish]

Badeau was friends with Mrs. Grant, therefore Grant was gay. Moronic.

I am leaving out the newspaper articles of the 1880's implying it while Badeau was sueing the family... In one of Badeau later books implies as well...

 

[diane]

5fish, of course things are going to be said when friends fall out. Doesn't mean they're true.

 

[Jim Klag]

I am leaving out the newspaper articles of the 1880's implying it while Badeau was sueing the family... In one of Badeau later books implies as well...

Go ahead and double down on this stupidity. Repetition does not make it true.

 

[rittmeister]

No, I read if there was anyone Grant was close to in his staff it would have been Badeau... When the family went around the world Badeau caught a ride and was not employed by the Grant's, doing his free loading thing. Badeau was a good friend to Ms. Grant, until later years... If you read angry letter Grant wrote to Badeau near the end of their relationship you could tel Grant was hurt...

i know a couple of guys (be friends with them) who tell me i'd eventually see the light (i doubt that) does that make me gay in your book? fyi my oldest daughter is actually gay.

 

[5fish]

i know a couple of guys (be friends with them) who tell me i'd eventually see the light (i doubt that) does that make me gay in your book? fyi my oldest daughter is actually gay.

I do not quite understand your thought but it seems to pass by everyone a gay man know by history but never written about. I am surprise Gay activist historian never wrote about the guy. He seems to be a weasel maybe that is why...

 

[rittmeister]

I do not quite understand your thought but it seems to pass by everyone a gay man know by history but never written about. I am surprise Gay activist historian never wrote about the guy. He seems to be a weasel maybe that is why...

i attacked the 's argument of gayness by proximity

 

[5fish]

i attacked the

's argument of gayness by proximity

The attack did not score... I an fascinated that everyone knows about Grants one Indian friend Parker and every bio of Grant's make sure you know he had an Indian friend but nothing about his gay friend Badeau... resent ones at least mention Badeau as gay and than move on...

 

[rittmeister]

The attack did not score... I an fascinated that everyone knows about Grants one Indian friend Parker and every bio of Grant's make sure you know he had an Indian friend but nothing about his gay friend Badeau... resent ones at least mention Badeau as gay and than move on...

i knew neither

 

[diane]

Well, 5fish, an Indian friend didn't make Grant an Indian!

 

[rittmeister]

Well, 5fish, an Indian friend didn't make Grant an Indian!

... a gay indian, may be?